Saving marriages with different foreplay
You don’t feel any different, do you, but you just know that things between you and your partner are not the same. Life has settled into a routine. Where you used to spend time getting ready and thinking about the date to come with your partner – the excitement has just gone.
Yet you are both still basically the same people – so what’s changed?
What’s changed is that you have both become ‘comfortable’ with each other. You’ve begun to accept that the general routine of life continues much the same from day to day and that you’re both now living together and following the same routines.
The mundane necessities of life you can’t do much about – work to get money to pay the mortgage to keep a roof over your head and buy the food and pay for the holidays to relieve the routine of everyday living. Sounds pretty depressing, doesn’t it?
But there is one thing you CAN change – something that you and your partner can make your own and lose yourselves in in your own special world .. put some spice into your love life.
Your lovemaking has probably become as routine as everything else in your life.
Remember when you first started to explore each other’s bodies, when everything was new and exciting because it WAS new – so what you need to do is rediscover that excitement of the ‘first’ time!
Start with anticipation and foreplay.
Don’t restrict foreplay to just the physical contact you have between each other, it’s whatever creates a sexual tension between you before making love [intimate text messages for example] – so that can go on all day if you want it to. Plan to make love at a chosen time or place and let the anticipation build up the sexual tension between you.
“Wait a minute, how can lovemaking planned in advance be exciting?”
Why not? It’s the anticipation that creates excitement and gives you time to think about what you’re going to do! You get excited about holidays, don’t you, and they’re planned months in advance.
Set aside a particular day for this – the weekend is probably best to start with. Get the kids out of the house for a sleep-over at their friend’s house if you need to. Plan to do something together during the day or at least meet up for a lunch date. [Yes you can do this - you made time for each other when you first met, and you looked forward to it!]
Make up your own scenario to suit your own circumstances – just prolong the foreplay and add variety to create more excitement into your lovemaking. Think about the things you used to do together to rekindle the past memories and get you feeling closer.
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